第一个是自己,
第二个是你最爱的人,
第三个是最爱你的人，
第四个是共度一生的人。
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然後体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，
也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。
但很悲哀的，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；
你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的.
只是在最适合的时间出现的那个人。
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？
没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了，
他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你 。
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱他，
如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱他，你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，
你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆，
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子─爱他的好，也爱他的坏：
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪著你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是没有丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；
分开是一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
你呢？找到了第几个？
茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？
The Four People You'll Meet on Life's Journey
The first is yourself
The second is the one you'll love the most
The third is the one who'll love you the most
The fourth is the one who'll spend the rest of your life with you.
You'll meet the one you love the most first, in order to experience love,
You can only find the one who loves you most only after you've discovered what love means to you.
After you've loved and been loved, and learnt what love is, you'll know what you need.
And only then will you be able to find the one who suits you best, the one who'll spend eternity with you.
However, sadly, in the real world, these three people will not appear as the same person.
The one you love will often not choose you
The one who loves you with all his heart will often not be the one you love most
And the one who'll be around you for life will often be neither the one you love most, nor will you be the one he loves most.
It just so happened that he turned up at the right time.
Who will you be in someone else's life?
Nobody purposely wants a change of heart
When he loved you, he really loved you.
Similarly, when he doesnt, he really doesnt.
When he loves you, he cannot pretend that he doesn't.
And when he doesn't, he cannot pretend that he does.
When someone leaves you because he doesnt love you anymore, ask yourself if you still love him.
If you don't, do not cling on because of your poor wounded pride.
If you still love him, wish him happiness, and wish that he will find his soulmate.
If you're trying to hinder him from finding true happiness, it means you dont love him anymore.
And if you dont love him, what right have you to blame him for his change of heart?
Love is not posessive.
You may love the moon, but you cannot pluck the moon out of the sky and hide it.
Even though it's far away, the silvery moonlight will still shine into your room.
There are different ways to love a person.
Let loved ones become your treasured memories
If you love someone, you should love his original self, his good and his bad, his strengths and his weaknesses.
Do not expect him to change to suit your expectations just because you love him.
When you really truly love someone, the feeling is unexplainable, there are no reasons why you do.
You'll only know that wherever you are, whatever the time, whether you're happy or sad, you'll wish he was there with you.
True love is when two people are able to draw strength from each other in times of struggles, without asking for anything in return.
After all, you have to invest your feelings without expecting anything in return.
Seperation is an eventual test which happens to everybody
If your relationship is not able to withstand the test, admit defeat graciously.
True love will never turn into blame or hate.
In this vast sea of people, how many you met?
And how many lifes have you impacted?
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